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The Rules of Social Anxiety

1. Walk with eyes fixed on the ground
They are watching, laughing, judging
Walk normal
Don’t focus on it too much or you will stumble and be made a fool of

2. Look like you are writing and busy in class
avoid being called on
you know the answer but what if you stutter or mumble
What if they tell you “speak up I can’t hear you”

3. Don’t make a noise
hold in that cough that sneeze that breathe
people will hear you
do not draw attention to yourself like that

4. Spend time every night before you go to bed to think
Think about all the embarrassing things you have ever done
Everyone remembers, that’s all they remember

5. Never enter a room full of people
They all look
Why are you here?
Why are you alive?

6. Your friends all secretly hate you
you know why they didn’t reply to your text
you know how they all dread seeing you
you are only put up with because of pity

7. Always be scared
Scared to sit next to a stranger
Scared to see someone you know
Scared eat in front of people
Scared to talk on the phone
Scared to go to social events
Scared order at a restaurant
Scared to talk
Scared to have a panic attack
Scared to be noticed

Always scared
but don’t worry,
you don’t like people anyway,
at least that’s what you say,
you’re “antisocial”
You don’t even care what they think, people are annoying,
that’s what you tell them.
You play it off as a joke
but really you’re always scared.

Anonymous   (via cassy005)

(Source: dharmabloom, via what-means-the-world-to-you)






So the other day I wore this outfit, it was pretty hot and I want to get more sun on the parts of my body that are typically covered with clothes. Yes, I expected to get some glances. I realize that some people are offended because my body is not the incredibly thin types we are used to seeing in clothes like this. I realize that many girls (and guys) believe this is only something skinny girls should wear. I also know that some people would say nobody should wear this because it’s “too revealing”. I say fuck that because I realize there isn’t a damn thing wrong with the way I am.
So I’m out with my fiancé and we are going to get some ice cream. A woman and her daughter who is probably around my age are sitting down near a table by the entry and as I walk up I heard someone saying “look” I happen to look up and I see this woman is pointing directly at me and whispering something to her daughter while staring at me the WHOLE TIME. These women are right next to where I am standing. I’m thinking to myself does this woman have no shame or does she not know I see what’s going on. I stopped and glanced at her for a bit, made eye contact. She continued to look me up and down, her daughter either embarrassed or just doesn’t want confrontation won’t even turn to look at me. I rolled my eyes and walked off, brushing it off as a typical gossiping woman with nothing better to do than talk badly about another woman she’s never even met.
Then as I walk in the mom says “look now” rather loudly and I turn around to see the daughter looking. I smile, and wave at them both.. which seemed to make them uncomfortable and the mom shook her head as I walked off.
We get our order and go to sit outside, and we have no choice but to walk by them. The woman is still gawking at me. Now I was thinking “is this woman serious right now what the fuck is her problem” the daughter isn’t doing much, can’t even look at me. I’m irritated, but I do not want to cause a scene. I finally say “Hi, how are you doing today” and she was so. fucking. shocked. She just said in an overly cheery voice “I’m doing great” smiled then complimented my lipstick. I laughed, and walked away. Daughter wouldn’t look at me still, by now I think she’s just embarrassed of her mothers ridiculous behavior.
 I do not know what her actual problem was, but I would like this woman and others like her to know that none of your casual (or not so casual) harassment is going to make me any less confident, nor will it make you any happier with yourselves. Do not be bitter of other women and teach your daughters the same. Your daughters, especially young ones, are impressionable.. your words about other women have an effect on them and how they view other women. End toxic girl on girl hate. Instead, build one another up, do not tear others down. We all have inner battles and struggles going on, we can all relate on some level.
Do not think that you need to follow any certain “rule” because of your body size or appearance, and do not impose such ridiculous rules and expectations on other women because you cannot possibly fathom how someone with a non slender body has a shred of confidence in herself.
If a woman is wearing something you would feel over exposed in, realize it is a personal choice; a preference. Not something that applies to all of us. Most importantly, know that a woman’s choice of attire does not reflect on her worth, her self respect, intellect or humanity. ..and if people just aren’t treating you right, kill them with kindness. 👍

I’m sorry they weren’t looking at you for your body size, but the fact that you went out in public in the equivalent of a bathing suit… I’m sorry but it’s just not classy and that’s more than likely why they were staring at you. The mother prob told her daughter not to dress that way. I would think this was an inappropriate/trashy outfit even on a stick thin woman. 

Ok? And? Only insecure people give a shit about what other people wear. It’s literally none of their business or your business what I wear or do. If you personally do not want to wear it, cool, but why the fuck do you think your personal preferences apply to the rest of us? Why should everyone be obligated to follow what you think is or isn’t acceptable? Then if they don’t, you get to mistreat them and call them names? Lol. Sorry hun but if a woman wants to wear shorts and a crop top, (which is now the equivalent of a two piece bikini apparently), then that’s her perogative. Furthermore as a mother she should teach her daughter that she can make her own choices as an adult, not police her every action because she personally finds it displeasing. She should also teach her daughter that what other people choose to do is not her business or concern. It’s really in poor taste use another woman who is not harming you or doing anything to you as an “example”. My mom has done this and I only can bite my tongue. There’s nothing that screams class or maturity about a grown ass woman making any sort of remarks about another adult woman who is minding her own business.

A fucking men dude. You tell em 🙌

pshhhh you look amazing




like 98% of my problems would be solved if i stopped overthinking things and calmed the fuck down and stopped being such a panicky, anxious little shit

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